Be Your Own Team

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 Your Always Have Been

Some days… the hardest place to exist isn’t even in the outside world.

It’s inside your own mind.

Because when your body is already struggling, already tired, already in pain… the last thing you need is a voice in your head saying:

“Why can’t you just be normal?”
“Why are you like this?”
“Why can’t you just push through?”

And yet… that’s often the voice we hear the loudest.

I’ve had those days.

Days where my body feels like it’s working against me…
Days where even the smallest things feel heavy…
Days where I look at other people living their lives so freely and think,

“Why is everything so hard for me?”

And in those moments, it’s so easy to turn against yourself.

To become your own critic.
Your own pressure.
Your own disappointment.

But lately… I’ve been trying something softer.

Something different.

Instead of fighting myself,
I’m learning to stand with myself.

What if, instead of tearing yourself down… you spoke to yourself like someone you love?

What if, on the hard days, you said:

“I know today is hard… but I’m here.”

Not rushing yourself.
Not forcing yourself.
Not comparing yourself.

Just… staying.

Because the truth is:

You are already dealing with enough.

Your body is asking for patience.
Your mind is asking for gentleness.
Your heart is asking to be understood.

You don’t need to add more pressure on top of that.

We don’t always realise how powerful our inner voice is.

But imagine hearing this all day:

“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re falling behind.”
“You should be better by now.”

It becomes exhausting.

Now imagine replacing it with:

“You’re doing what you can.”
“It’s okay to go slow.”
“I’m proud of you for trying.”

It doesn’t magically fix everything…

But it softens the weight you carry.

Let’s talk about that word for a second… normal.

What even is normal?

Because living with fibromyalgia, with mental health struggles, with a body that doesn’t always cooperate… your version of “normal” will look different.

And that doesn’t make it wrong.

It just makes it yours.

Next time you feel that harsh voice creeping in…

Pause.

And say:

“I’m having a hard moment… not a bad life.”
“I don’t need to figure everything out today.”
“I’m allowed to take this one step at a time.”

Even if you don’t fully believe it yet…

Say it anyway.

Your mind is listening.

The world can be overwhelming.
People can misunderstand.
Your body can feel unpredictable.

But you…

You can become a place of safety.

A place where you are not judged.
Not rushed.
Not made to feel like you’re failing.

You are not your worst days.
You are not your limitations.
You are not the voice that tells you you’re not enough.

You are someone who is trying…
someone who is learning…
someone who is still here.

And that matters more than you realise.

So today… if nothing else…

Be on your own team.

Sit with yourself.
Speak kindly to yourself.
Stay with yourself.

And that is more than enough 

With you, always.


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