Mind Over Matter

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Healing As An Adult


I’ve realised that as we grow older, life doesn’t necessarily get easier — it just changes. The weight shifts. And suddenly, you’re the adult who has to unlearn what hurt you and rebuild what you never had. No one really tells you that healing isn’t a straight path. It’s messy. Some days you’re proud of how far you’ve come, and other days you’re just tired of fighting the same battle in your mind.


But here’s what I’ve learned:

Mental health is everything.

It’s the foundation of how we see ourselves, how we treat others, and how we show up in the world.


I’ve had to train my thoughts like I’d train a muscle.

“Mind over matter” isn’t just a saying — it’s survival. It’s whispering to yourself, “I can get through this,” even when your whole body feels like shutting down. It’s choosing not to let your past, your trauma, or your fears control your future.


As an adult, you start seeing the cracks in everything. The way you speak to yourself. The habits you picked up in survival mode. The walls you built around your heart that now feel too heavy to carry. But here’s the good news: you’re allowed to change. You’re allowed to grow into someone softer, wiser, kinder — even if you weren’t shown how.


Bettering yourself doesn’t mean becoming perfect. It means choosing differently.

It means learning to pause instead of react.

It means setting boundaries without guilt.

It means going to therapy, journaling, or resting without feeling lazy.

It’s small things — choosing peace over proving a point, kindness over ego, healing over pretending.


No one heals overnight. I haven’t. But I’ve come a long way. And every time I choose to take care of my mental health, I take a step toward becoming the woman I needed when I was younger.


So if you’re on that same journey, I see you.

You’re not alone.

And the fact that you’re trying? That already makes you better than you were yesterday.


Keep going.

You’re growing in ways the world may not see — but your soul knows. 

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