Fibromyalgia When Your Spine Hurts Without a Reason

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                                                     The Pain No One Sees

Some pain doesn’t come with bruises or bandages. There’s no car accident, no fall, no physical injury to explain the deep ache in my tailbone or the relentless throbbing up my spine. And yet, day after day, I feel it — an invisible wound that keeps stealing parts of my life in silence.


What’s even harder to explain is the discoloration — when my skin near the tailbone turns a deep shade of blue or purple as if my body is crying out through colors. There’s no impact. No trauma. No reason. Just this pain… and no real answers.


The Weight of Constant Discomfort


It’s more than pain. It’s disruption.

  • I can’t sit comfortably for long.

  • I struggle to walk without stiffness or fatigue.

  • Lying down doesn’t bring relief — it brings pressure.

  • I feel stuck in a body that won’t cooperate.


As if that wasn’t enough, fevers linger without a cause. It’s like my body is at war with itself, and I’m left in the crossfire — hot, dizzy, drained — while still expected to smile, show up, and explain what’s “wrong” when I barely understand it myself.


But You Don’t Look Sick


This part always hurts — when you’re met with disbelief. People assume you’re exaggerating or making it up because you don’t “look like someone in pain.” But what does that even mean?


They can’t see how your spine feels like it’s collapsing.

They don’t see the color changes or feel the constant burning.

They don’t live in your body — you do.


And in this body, I carry:

  • Frustration from not being able to do simple things.

  • Guilt for needing help.

  • Grief for the person I was before this pain started.

  • Fear of what it might mean when no one has answers.


But I Keep Going — Because I Must


This body may slow me down, but I am still here.


Still showing up.

Still advocating for myself.

Still holding on to hope that one day, this pain will be understood — and maybe even eased.


🧡 Gentle Self-Care Reminder


If today your body is flaring, if your spine aches and your mind is heavy, please don’t blame yourself for needing rest. You are not lazy. You are not weak. You are surviving something relentless. And that takes a strength many will never understand.


🌼 You are allowed to pause. To breathe. To simply exist — and that is enough.

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Symptom Tracker Prompt: Tailbone & Spine Flare Days


Use the following journal prompts to track your symptoms:

  • What level is your pain today? (1–10)

  • Did the skin discoloration appear? If yes, where and what color?

  • Did you feel feverish? Any temperature reading?

  • Were you able to walk, sit, or lie down comfortably?

  • How did this impact your emotions today?

  • One thing you did to care for yourself:

  • One thing you’d like to remember tomorrow:


Save this entry, and look back at it with compassion — not criticism. You’re doing the best you can.


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