God Never Meant for Love to Hurt

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 Even From Family 



Sometimes the deepest wounds come from the people who were meant to protect us. Maybe it was the words they said… or the love they held back. Maybe it was the silence, the blame, or the way they made you feel like you were never enough.


The Bible doesn’t ignore this kind of pain. Even though it doesn’t use the word “abuse,” God speaks clearly about how families should treat one another.


In Colossians 3:21, we’re told:

“Fathers, do not provoke your children, or they will become discouraged.”

And in Ephesians 6:4, it says:

“Do not exasperate your children, but raise them with love and understanding.”


And if your family wasn’t that for you… it’s okay to say it.


It’s okay to grieve the love you didn’t get.

It’s okay to set boundaries — even with those who raised you.

It’s okay to seek healing, even if others say, “But that’s just how they are.”

And it’s more than okay to admit that what happened to you left marks — even if no one else sees them.


These verses are not just instructions — they are reminders of God’s heart. He never designed family to be a place of fear, manipulation, or emotional pain. He created family to be a place of safety, love, and growth.


Mental Health Matters to God, Too


God doesn’t just care about your soul — He cares about your mind, your heart, and the weight you’ve carried for so long.

You can believe in Him and still feel overwhelmed. You can have faith and still need space to heal.


You’re not dramatic. You’re not weak. You’re not too sensitive.

You’re human. And your story matters.

Dear heart, please remember this:

You did not deserve the pain.

You are not what they called you.

You are not too broken to be whole again.


God sees you. He’s not disappointed — He’s right beside you, gently reminding you that healing is holy work. And you’re allowed to take all the time you need.


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