How I Keep Up With Daily Errands

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                                      While Living with Fibromyalgia.


Let me start by saying this: some days, I don’t. And that’s okay.


Living with fibromyalgia means every day comes with its own unpredictability. I don’t wake up and jump into a set routine the way I used to. Instead, I wake up and quietly check in with my body — almost like asking an old friend, “How are we today?” Sometimes she answers with gentleness. Other times, it feels like she screams before I even move.


But over the years, I’ve learned a few things that help me show up — for my life, my responsibilities, and most importantly, myself — without completely draining what little energy I have.


1. I Don’t Pretend I’m Superwoman Anymore

I used to feel guilty for not being able to do it all. For needing rest. For saying no. But now I realize — strength looks different for me. It’s in the quiet boundaries I’ve set, in the tasks I choose not to do because I know they’ll cost me more than they’re worth.


2. Lists, Lists, and More Lists

Brain fog is real. Some days, I walk into a room and forget why I’m there. So I keep simple checklists — sometimes on my phone, sometimes just sticky notes — with things like “take meds,” “put on washing,” “water the plants.” It might seem small to others, but for me, completing those little tasks is a win. And I celebrate those wins.


3. I Pace Myself Like My Life Depends on It (Because It Does)

If I have three errands to do, I don’t try to do them all at once anymore. I space them out. I rest in between. I bring snacks. I keep water with me. I give myself permission to stop halfway if my body says, “No more.”


4. I Ask for Help — and That Took Time

This one wasn’t easy. But now, whether it’s my husband grabbing groceries or a friend dropping off something I need, I allow help in. Because doing it all myself isn’t a badge of honor — it’s a fast track to a flare-up. And I’ve had enough of those.


5. I’ve Made My Environment Work With Me

Errands aren’t just things outside the house. They’re also dishes, laundry, phone calls. I try to do these tasks sitting down when I can. I keep frequently used items within reach. I’ve even turned cleaning into a playlist party, so it feels a little less heavy. On bad days? Those dishes can wait. The world won’t fall apart.


6. I Forgive Myself (Over and Over Again)

I still have moments where I cry in frustration because my body won’t cooperate. But instead of drowning in guilt, I remind myself: I’m doing the best I can. And my best is enough — even if today’s “best” looks like resting on the couch in pajamas while life moves on outside.

Fibromyalgia changed the way I live. But it also taught me to slow down, to be present, and to honor what my body needs. Every errand I complete, every item I cross off my list — it’s not just a task done, it’s a tiny victory over the pain, the fatigue, and the doubt.


So if you’re reading this and feeling like you’re falling behind — know this: you’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re navigating a life that asks more from you than most people will ever understand.


And you’re doing beautifully,

Flare & Flourish

Pacing, patience, and a lot of grace – that’s how I get through.

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