Trauma

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                                                        Let’s Talk About Trauma

                               From Childhood to Adulthood, and the Healing In Between


You don’t just “get over” trauma.

It doesn’t pack its bags and leave the moment you grow up or move out.

It follows you—in your thoughts, your relationships, your triggers, your silence.


For a long time, I didn’t even know I was carrying trauma. I thought I was just sensitive. Moody. Maybe even broken.

But I wasn’t broken—I was surviving.


Childhood trauma leaves imprints.

It shows up in how you flinch when someone raises their voice.

In how you over-explain yourself, trying so hard not to upset anyone.

In how you say “I’m fine” when you’re anything but.

It teaches you to be small. To keep the peace. To read between the lines before you even understand the language of feelings.


And when you grow up, that trauma doesn’t just vanish—it shapes you.


In adulthood, it shows up like this:

  • People-pleasing, because love always felt conditional.

  • Anxiety, because your nervous system never learned how to feel safe.

  • Trust issues, because the people who were meant to protect you didn’t.

  • Emotional flashbacks, where you’re suddenly right back in that room—even though years have passed.

  • Chronic illness or pain, because trauma stores itself in the body too.


And here’s something not enough people say:

You are allowed to acknowledge your trauma even if others had it “worse.”

Pain isn’t a competition. If it hurt you, it matters.


So how do we overcome it?

Slowly.

Gently.

With patience and compassion for the version of ourselves that had to survive.


Here are some ways that have helped me:

  • Therapy. A safe space to unravel the past without judgment.

  • Naming it. Trauma loses power when it’s no longer hidden.

  • Inner child work. Talking to the little version of me, telling her she’s safe now.

  • Creating boundaries. Protecting my peace, even if it upsets others.

  • Journaling and mindfulness. Letting my body and mind connect again in safe ways.

  • Rest. Because healing is exhausting—and that’s okay.


A few truths I’ve learned along the way:

  • Trauma isn’t your fault, but healing is your responsibility.

  • You didn’t deserve what happened to you.

  • You’re allowed to take up space.

  • You’re not too damaged to be loved.

  • Your triggers are clues, not flaws.

  • Healing isn’t linear—and that’s normal.


If this spoke to you, I hope you remember:

You are not alone.

You are not broken.

And you can rewrite the story.


Maybe not all at once.

Maybe not today.

But page by page, moment by moment—you’re healing.


And that matters more than words can say.


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