Here’s how I pace myself

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                                             (And what helps me release the guilt)


I Plan “Rest” Into My Day—Not Around It


Instead of squeezing in rest when I’m already crashing, I build it into my routine.

I block off time for breaks, naps, breathing, and stillness—even when I feel “okay.”

This stops the crash before it happens and reminds me that rest is productive.


I Use the Spoon Theory as a Guide


If you know the Spoon Theory, you’ll get this.

Each day, I start with a limited number of spoons (units of energy).

Some days I have more, some days less.

I ask myself: Is this worth a spoon today? Can it wait?

Learning to spend my spoons wisely changed everything.

 

I Break Tasks into Tiny Pieces


I no longer try to clean the whole house in one go or answer every message at once.

Instead, I break things into small, doable chunks.

One shelf today. One phone call later.

And I celebrate each step—because progress is progress, no matter how small.


I Listen to My Body—Not the Clock


Some days, I need more rest than others. And that’s okay.

If my body says no, I don’t force a yes.

Pushing through pain might win the moment, but it costs me days of recovery.

Now, I choose peace over pride.


I Remind Myself: Guilt Doesn’t Heal Me


When guilt shows up (and it does), I talk back to it.

I remind myself: I am not lazy. I am not failing. I am listening.

And that is brave. That is growth.

To my fellow fibro warriors:

You don’t have to prove your worth by how much you do.

You’re allowed to move at your own pace.

You’re allowed to rest without guilt.

You’re allowed to be—even on the days you’re not “doing.”


Pacing isn’t weakness.

It’s wisdom.

And every time you choose it, you’re choosing yourself


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