Control

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                                               Isn’t Everything—And That’s Okay


Are you also a neat freak? The kind of person who finds peace in order, who thrives on routine, and who believes—deep down—that if everything’s in its place, then maybe life will finally feel a little easier?


Yeah… I get it.


I used to think that if I could control enough, I could avoid the hard stuff. If I could plan well, clean enough, prepare for every outcome, maybe I wouldn’t get hurt. Maybe my body wouldn’t flare up. Maybe my emotions would stay steady. Maybe life would feel lighter.


But let me tell you something I had to learn the hard way:

Control is comforting—but it’s not everything.


Today humbled me. I had plans. I had a list. I had expectations.

And life? Well, it had other ideas.


There were things I couldn’t control. Pain. Fatigue. Delays. People’s attitudes. Unexpected emotions. You name it.


But there were also things I could control.

And I chose to focus on those.


I handled the challenges that were mine to carry. I paused when I needed to. I breathed through the chaos. I responded instead of reacting. I chose kindness over perfection. And honestly? That’s more powerful than any perfectly planned day.


As for the rest—the things that were out of my hands? I let go. Not perfectly. Not easily. But I let go. And I reminded myself:


Patience is also a form of strength.

And so is putting on a smile—not to fake it,

but to face it.


So no, I can’t control everything.

But I can control how I show up in the mess.

And today, I showed up. That’s enough.


To anyone else like me—neat freaks, planners, gentle control-lovers—this is your reminder:

You don’t have to carry it all.

Let go of what isn’t yours to hold.

Do what you can with what you have.

And meet yourself with grace in the process.


You’re doing better than you think.



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